Friday, December 7, 2018

How to intelligently handle toxic people

It could be your friend from school, a co-worker, or your own life partner. Toxic relationships can take various shapes and forms, and they come with an obvious pattern of manipulation, bullying, being combative, and unhealthy behaviors. But what are smart, effective ways to deal with toxic people in your life? Here are some.

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Learn to recognize the traits that make you an easy prey
Have you ever wondered why someone is mistreating you? Could it be your incessant need to please people, or your fear of changing the way things are? See if you can detect a pattern – you’ll need this information to deal with the toxic person and stop the mistreatment.
Get good social support

Smart people will develop a strong support network made up of loyal and trustworthy people. This comes with the realization that you cannot be everybody’s friend and you can’t be on every team, but that true friendship and loyalty will always be your weapon against toxic, negative individuals.
Guard your boundaries or plan your exit strategy

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If you can’t avoid coming into contact with a toxic person, may it be a neighbor or in-law, set boundaries for behavior and the kind of contact you’re going to have with them. You don’t need to be rude or abrasive; simply be firm, decisive, and ready to defend your personal space and wellness. Plan an exit strategy for toxic people you can actually give the boot.
Forgive, but don’t forget

While forgiveness requires that you let go of what happened for you to move on, it doesn’t mean giving a toxic person one chance after another. Use that situation as a learning experience, which can guide you in your other relationships.

Marc Accetta is one of the most recognizable figures in the life coaching arena. He is known for his unique style in conducting life coaching seminars regardless of people’s age groups or socioeconomic status. For more articles like this, visit this blog.