Thursday, April 16, 2015

Haters going to hate: Dealing with critics


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As much as the adage "We can't please everybody" rings truth, the existence of critics in life is inevitable. Most people have experienced being criticized, and it's never a pleasant experience. So how do you deal with criticism?

Don't be too hard on yourself

Most often, people’s worst critics are themselves. Many are never satisfied with what they’ve accomplished and strive for more. While this is perfectly acceptable, it's also good to cut yourself some slack. It's not good to dwell on the negative. All you need is a little appreciation or reward after so much hard work.

Feel the emotions and then accept them

It hurts to be criticized, but it's all right to feel the pain. Holding the pain in or pretending it never bothered you will only stack up the negative emotion and eventually you'll snap. Allow yourself to feel sad and then afterward, accept the criticism for what it is and try to do better next time.



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Listen objectively and calmly

When receiving negative feedback for something you said or did, it can be difficult to stay calm. It's also hard not to take criticism personally, but that will be your first mistake. Take criticism as an avenue for self-improvement.

Never lash out in anger

It's normal to feel sad and even angry when receiving harsh criticism, but it's never okay to lash out. Anger won't solve anything nor would it be a good reflection of your character. If you must object (when you feel strongly that you're misunderstood), keep your temper in check and speak calmly.


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Life coach Marc Accetta provides valuable guidance to people who want to change their lives for the better. Follow this Facebook page for more life lessons and other related stories.