Do It Right: Three Ways To Give Real And Sincere Self-Affirmations

Psychologists and life coaches encourage their clients to practice daily self-affirmations. Similar to the little engine that could, these short but sweet messages to one’s self aim to inspire action and generate good-will. Yet, there are still a number of people who find the exercise embarrassing; leading many to not experience the full benefits of loving and real self-affirmations. Thankfully, there are three simple ways to improve this. 

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Keep it real: The main reason why self-affirmations don’t work is because it feels fake. People should not say to themselves what they would not say to their friends or family. Often it is difficult to encourage one’s self, particularly if there is low self-esteem or self-love. A way to counter this is to talk to the self as if one would a cherished friend. This change of mindset is enough to deliver messages that are genuine and believable. 

Keep it coming: Self-affirmations are actions that need to be done every day. This is how the mind shifts its attitudes towards them. The first few days are embarrassing and strange but eventually it will not be so. The mind will accept these affirmations and after the initial wave of disbelief will be more accepting of what the messages say. 

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Keep moving: An important aspect of self-affirmation is the positivity it should generate. People should feel encouraged by what they say. As such, it is necessary to keep the messages changing to suit the needs of the self. If a particular message is no longer inspiring, then the individual should shift to one that gives a new, positive feeling. 

Another good recommendation is to seek the assistance of a life coach to better hone the skill of self-affirming. 

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Manifest Love In Your Life Using The Law Of Attraction

Life coaching attempts to address all aspects of one’s life, including love. For many people, the attainment of success and wealth pales in comparison to the utter joy of finding a life partner. When Rhonda Byrne released "The Secret", many people – from Oprah to Deepak Chopra - began talking about the law of attraction and how all successful people (both in wealth and love) use this to manifest joy in their life. 

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The law of attraction is used for anything, including love; but many people say that this is perhaps the hardest thing for them to attract. Somehow, the concept of attracting wealth and money is not as difficult as finding love. There are many stories available online about how the law of attraction does not seem to work in their quest for love. 

A few points must be stressed here. In terms of love, the concept of a "vacuum" does not work. In The Secret, readers are told that the Universe hates empty spaces. It conspires to fill areas where there is a lack. This works extremely well with money, but not with love. When people become desperate or have fear associated with love (e.g. I need to find a love partner because I am afraid of being alone or, I can’t leave him or her because--what will happen to me then? etc.), the vibrations they release are that of loss. Love cannot thrive in this environment. People inevitably push love away because their thoughts are one of loss. They may find a temporary partner or two, but true love will never exist with this mindset. 

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Manifesting love through the law of attraction is based on gratitude and fulfilment. People often say "I will love myself when I get love" but this is a misconception. Many life coaches stress the importance of self-love first before any love can be received. It is the concept of simple math, how can one give when one doesn’t have? 

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Smart Goal Setting: How To Make And Keep Mid-Year Resolutions

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At the beginning of the year, many people make resolutions to improve themselves and their lives. They pledge to stop eating junk, to start working harder at their jobs, and other laudable goals. Most of the time, however, resolutions are forgotten by February.

Mid-year resolutions are a way for people to recommit to their goals, revise them, or to make new ones altogether. But just like New Year's resolutions, mid-year resolutions take time, commitment, and hard work to see through.

One way to help ensure that one follows through on one's goals is to make sure they're S.M.A.R.T. 

S.M.A.R.T. is an acronym used by business authors to guide the creation of business goals. While the S.M.A.R.T. philosophy is used both in business management, it is often modified to apply to personal development as well.

For mid-year goals to be achievable, they need to be:

Specific. Specific resolutions, such as “I will try to lose weight by reducing my daily food intake by 300 calories” stand a better chance of being accomplished than vague ones like, “I will try to lose weight.” When setting goals, the questions “who,” “what,” “how,” and “why” must be answered.

Measurable. The results of the goal must be quantifiable in some way so individuals can measure their progress over time and take action when necessary. For example, a goal to spend every Sunday with family is measurable, while a goal to spend more time with family is not.

Attainable. Goals must be realistic. While a goal might be challenging, it should not be impossible to achieve. For example, a goal to get promoted within two years is more attainable than a goal to get promoted within two months.

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Relevant. S.M.A.R.T. goal setting is for aspirations that matter, not trivial ones. While a goal to complete a video game in a day is specific, measurable, and attainable, it's not relevant. It serves no greater purpose and does not improve an individual as a person or as a professional.

Time-bound. Goals must have, if not a deadline, a time frame. A target date adds a sense of urgency and helps an individual focus on achieving a goal.

A professional life or career coach can help people make and keep resolutions, whether they're made at the beginning or the middle of the year.

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It’s in Your Head: Keys to Having a Success-driven Mindset

According to the popular adage, “As a man thinketh, so is he.” If success starts from the mind, how come only a few can say they’ve made it? The wonderful human mind can be a room full of negativity or a room that inspires more ideas. Read on for the keys that might inspire success.

 

Think like a winner

Don’t go into a battle if you’re only going to lose. Some people pursue something while expecting that it will be a failure. Though it’s not always healthy to have high expectations all the time, it’s not at all bad to think of clinching success even when the odds show otherwise. Achieving goals require hard work and the right opportunities. When a person acts like he or she is already victorious, going through the motions will be worth it even if it doesn’t yield much result yet. 

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Learn to drown out negative voices

Everyone has to deal with that nagging voice in their head that is overly fearful, doubtful, and lazy. What most people have forgotten is that there’s another voice that tells the exact opposite. Successful people know when to drown the negative voices in their head. On the other hand, hearing the hopeful voices is not just refreshing but also pushes an individual to go further. 

Refresh the mind

When the mind is overloaded with problems, insights, passions, work, and other cares, sometimes it’s just helpful to let go of all these things and just focus on having a clear mind. Refreshing the mind may require a person to leave life and be alone for a while. However, after a much needed “me time”, a person can approach life with new thoughts and creative ideas that might contribute to success.

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Marc Accetta is a life coach who uses unique means to capture his audiences’ attention and help them overcome personal hardships and professional struggles. Mr. Accetta, backed with talent and personal experiences, has inspired many people of all ages and from all walks of life with charismatic edutainment that is truly motivating. Learn more about self and career improvement through this blog.

Step up: Coping with work-related stress

A stress-free life is happier. With considerable pressure at work, however, employees could be hardpressed attaining happiness and peace. 

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Although you can’t control tension on the job, there are ways to manage it. The following are some strategies for coping with work-related stress: 

Learn to respond, not react. Dr. Sharon Melnick, a business psychologist and author, tells Forbes that it is better act rather than react. “We experience stress when we feel that situations are out of our control,” she explains. According to Dr. Melnick, it is important to identify the aspects of the situation you can control and aspects you can’t and learn to react on these conditions. 

Track your stressors. Take time to understand your stressors. One way is by taking notes to find patterns among your stressors and your reactions to them. This can help you develop better responses when tension arises. 

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Allow yourself to recharge. We all have limits. If we go beyond those, we tend to submit to burnout and symptoms of chronic stress. Take time to recover by “switching off” from work and learning to relax through meditation or whatever activity you enjoy doing. 

Eat right and sleep well. Insufficient sleep and bad eating habits can affect your overall well-being, including your feelings and emotions. So sleep well and eat right to reduce your susceptibility to stress. 

Practice these strategies to lessen work-related stress. Remember, stress is normal, but the way we respond to it is all up to ourselves. 

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Note: Failure is Not the Same As Lack of Success

“No risk, no reward” — old adage.

Those who really want to succeed must be willing to fail. The highest peaks are best appreciated from the deepest valleys.

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 Majority of today’s (and of the past’s) successful people have at some point in their lives hit rock bottom. However, they never succumbed to failure and instead used it as an inspiration to start anew and finally succeed. Henry Ford went bankrupt five times before his car company became a global brand. Akio Morita’s earliest inventions were epic fails before Sony became a leader in cutting-edge electronic goods. Walt Disney was criticized for his “lack imagination and poor ideas” before his company took off as one of the largest entertainment conglomerates in the world.

Unsuccessful people do not go outside their box and settle for the familiar. They hesitate to offer new ideas because they function from a place of fear. They are afraid to fail because they are overly anxious of the judgment of others, causing them to do only the minimum and play it safe.

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 Successful people go for their ambitious ideas with an awareness and willingness to fail. Of course, they do not want to disappoint, but they know that if they do not take risks, they will never know what it actually is to win.

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Leaping Life's Hurdles: Losing a Loved One

Death is inevitable. It is part of the human life cycle: people are born every minute, and people die every minute. Death maybe in the farthest loops in time, or it may be just around the corner, but no one actually knows when it will happen.

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Aside from the fear of one’s own demise, losing a loved one can also have a similar emotional toll. As the brain is capable of linking emotions to memories, this results in distress for people who have lost their spouse, child, or parent. Memories of past conversations and time spent together are some of the things people remember when they think of their departed loved one that can elicit deep sorrow or anxiety. It is best for the grieving individual to be surrounded by family and friends during such tough time. Seeking counseling or professional help can also be one way of dealing with such great loss.

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In fact, experts note that those who seek support from family, friends, or professionals, heal faster than those who grieve on their own. Although those who are grieving understand that they cannot bring their loved ones back, they have beautiful memories to remember.

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